Sunday, May 10, 2009

mother's day

Happy Mother's Day and well done for all those who managed to get through it without major tears (theirs or a child's), guilt (mainly theirs) or an insane urge to just run screaming out of the door.
I solo-parented thru this mother's day. It was hard work not to expect some kind of celebration (I got the best ever Mother's Day gift back on my first one anyway - my son finally came home for the first time from the hospital, nothing beats that!) or easy ride but the Wee Guy and I made it through the daylight hours without falling out in a major way. We even managed a civilised early dinner out together which didn't end with me telling him that in no way would I ever consider taking him out for a meal again. Progress!
... and I managed to pack in some gardening too so it can't have been all bad.
I also checked in on PostSecret for their mother's day cards. This was the one that stopped me in my tracks. My heart goes out to the mother who wrote the card. I have no idea what you are going through but I do have some understanding of it.
Earlier this year my genetic testing results came back - I found out that I did not carry a particularly nasty gene deletion. Although admittedly relieved at not having to face the certainty of unpleasant medical screening for the rest of my inevitably shortened life, most of my joy was at knowing that there is no way I can have passed it on to my son.
Happy Mother's Day


Anonymous said...

"We even managed a civilised early dinner out together which didn't end with me telling him that in no way would I ever consider taking him out for a meal again. Progress!"

That made me laugh out loud. There are few worse parenting challenges than the restaurant meal, in my experience. I'm glad yours didn't go TOO badly. :)

Happy belated Mother's Day to you!

Unknown said...

Very powerful post....not really sure why...but read it about 4-5 times......really touched me. Right from the beginning. So Blunt and truthful and the end...I am saddened by "my ievitalbly shortened life". so much about ourselves that others don't much that each of us deal with.....
Happy Mothers Day

pomomama said...

Thanks for commenting Crystal. The happy fact which arose from the genetic testing results is that with not having the gene deletion, my life expectancy is as long as anybody's is now, with all the uncertainty involved. Had I been found positive for the gene deletion my risks for cancer would have increased exponentially (80% in some cases) and I'm willing to bet that my 3 score years and 10 would have been shortened. Now I'm not having to face that fact, I am just dealing with the normal run-of-the-mill uncertainty that everyone else has!! and that makes me happy.

pomomama said...

Thanks Amber. I think I really 'screw up' the restaurant discipline threats thing cos I love eating out with company, and even my Wee Guy is better than no company at all (and it beats having to cook too).
Must try harder to be more consistent!!!!

a Cagey Bee said...

Thanks so much for the sweet comment on my silly squirrels card. I love the Post Secret link too. I haven't been following Post Secret for a bit now, but that one is a prime example of what makes the entire project so brilliant.

Have a lovely week!

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